I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good place to start. I will continue to update over time.

LAST UPDATED 04/19/2021

Kink Education and Organization Sites

• www.BSDM.org 
• BDSM Education Center www.BDSMEducCenter.com  (broken link fixed 1/20/2020)
• Black Rose www.BR.org 
• Center for Sex Positive Culture www.thecspc.org 
• Community Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualitites www.carasresearch.org 
• Black Thorn Black-Thorn.org
• Fetish.com has a list of BDSM groups across the US
• Folsom Street Events www.folsomstreetevents.org 
• International Mr. Leather www.imrl.com 
• International Ms. Leather and Boot Black www.imslbb.org 
• Kink Academy www.KinkAcademy.com 
• Kinkly Kinkly.com
• Kinsey Institute www.kinseyinstitute.org 
• Leather and LGBTQ Cultural District, SF https://sfleatherdistrict.org/ 
• Leather Archives and Museum www.leatherarchives.org 
• Lesbian Herstory Archives www.lesbianherstoryarchives.org 
• Lesbian Sex Mafia www.lesbainsexmafia.org 
• Museum of Sex www.museumofsex.com 
• National Coalition for Sexual Freedom www.NCSFreedom.org
• National Leather Association International www.NLA-international.com 
• Lavender Library and Cultural Exchange www.llace.org 
• The Pleasure Coach http://www.thepleasurecoach.org/
• Sexual Alpha SexualAlpha.com
• Society of Janus www.soj.org 
• The Exiles (lesbain org) www.theexiles.org 
• Wicked Grounds www.WickedGrounds.com 
• Woodhull Freedom Foundation www.woodhullfoundation.org

Books

Consent

• SSC v. Rack https://epochryphal.wordpress.com/2015/02/16/rack-vs-ssc-kink-consent-ableism-agency/
• Negotiating a BDSM Scene https://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/negotiating-a-bdsm-scene/
• DevianceAndDesire 1 page negotiation form https://www.devianceanddesire.com/2016/04/tonight-i-want-negotiation-sheet/
• Kink Weekly Negotiation Checklist https://www.kinkweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/BDSM-negotiation-checklist.pdf
• Jay Wiseman Negotiation Long Form https://www.evilmonk.org/a/wiseman10.cfm
• Kink Closet Beginners BDSM Contracts https://www.lovense.com/bdsm-blog/bdsm-contract
• Midori Negotiating Consent Video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9s0VVjIi38
• American Sex Podcast with Guest Midori “Hotter Negotiation” http://sunnymegatron.com/hotter-negotiation-midori-podcast/
• Kink Academy Podcast with Selena Minx “Negotiation is Hard!” https://erotication.libsyn.com/negotiation-is-hard-selina-minx-makes-it-easy

General Information

• “The Ultimate Beginner’s Guide” by Couple’s Candy
• Blanton, Rebecca. Love Letters to a Unicorn: A book about kink, BDSM, and non-monogamy.(2nd edition)
• Blanton, Rebecca. The Big Workbook for Submissives.
• Brame, William, Gloria Brame, and John Williams. (2011). Different Loving: A Complete Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission. Random House: New York.
• Califia, Pat and Robin Davies. (2012). Public Sex.
• Cruz, Ariane. The Color of Kink.
• Easson, Dossie. The Topping Book
• Easson, Dossie and Janet Hardy. The Ethical Slut
• Easson, Dossie and Janet Hardy. The Bottoming Book
• Harrington, Lee. Playing Well with Others.
• Kali, Princess. 365 Days of Kink.
• Midori.  Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink
• Notte, JoEllen. (2020). The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression and the Conversations We are Not Having
• Perel, Esther. (2009). Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence.
• Thompson, Mark, Dorothy Allison, Guy Baldwin, etc. (2013). Leatherfolk: Radical sex, people, politics, and practice. Deadalus Press: New York.
• van der Kolk, Bessel. The Body Keeps the Score.
• Wiseman, Jay. SM 101

Impact Play

“Impact Play Safe Zones”

Pet Play

“A Glimpse Into the World of Puppy Play”

Rope

• Harrington, Lee and Rigger Jay. More Shibari You Can Use.
• Midori and Craig Morey.  The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage.
• Tizano, Shay. Tying and Flying.
• Two Knotty Boys and Larry Utley. Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes.
• Vane, Evie. Better Bondage for Every Body.

HEALTH, AGING, and DISABILITY

• Aida Manduley Disability Justice
• Ante Up Disability Courses
• ChronicSex.org
• Disability After Dark
• Hedonish
• JP Consulting
• LA Spoonie Collective
• Notte, JoEllen. The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We are Not Having.
• Robin Wilson Beaty

BLOGS

• Chronic Sex
• Dr. Liz Powell
• Dungeons & Diagnosis
• Erotic Awakening
• Kink Academy: Blog posts, video instruction and more from top kink educators!
• Kink Doctor
• Hey Epiphora
• Kink Positive
• RedheadBedhead
• Spices of Lust
• Submissive Feminist: Personal blog
• Submissive Guide All things submissive. Well informed and sourced.
• Sugarbutch D/s, queer, gender nonconforming
• The Body is Not An Apology
• Wicked Grounds Blogs, classes and more!
• A Kinky Autistic
• Afrosexology
• Love Letters to a Unicorn
• Rain DeGrey
• Submissive Feminist
• Sunny Megatron
• Trauma Queen

PODCASTS

• American Sex Podcast
• Bawdy Storytelling
• The Dildorks
• Disability After Dark
• Kink Academy Podcast
• Kink and Coffee
• Kink Craft
• Kinky Queer Revolution
• Loving BDSM
• Masocast
• Off the Cuffs
• People of Kink
• Poly Role Models
• Practically Kinky
• Sluts and Scholars

Reputable Vendors

• Beyond Piercing
• Chainmail by Chelle
• Dark Garden (corsets)
• Details Toys
• Enby
• Foxy Feisty Redhead
• Fun Factory
• FunkitToys
• Geeky and Kinky (apparel and accessories)
• Glass Fish
• Good Vibes
• Holo Leather
• Lelo toys
• LoveHoney
• Marv’s Knotty Wood
• Morado Leather Designs
• NJoy toys
• Mr. S Leather
• Orchard Corsets
• SheVibe
• Toys in Babeland
• Twisted Monk (rope)
• SINagauge on Etsy
• Smitten Kitten
• Stockroom
• Sugar the Shop (Baltimore, MD)
• Tantus Toys
• Uberlube
• Wicked Grounds (San Francisco, CA)
• 611 Clothing

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