I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good place to start. I will continue to update over time.
LAST UPDATED 02/16/2021
Kink Education and Organization Sites
- www.BSDM.org
- BDSM Education Center www.BDSMEducCenter.com (broken link fixed 1/20/2020)
- Black Rose www.BR.org
- Center for Sex Positive Culture www.thecspc.org
- Community Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualitites www.carasresearch.org
- Black Thorn Black-Thorn.org
- Fetish.com has a list of BDSM groups across the US
- Folsom Street Events www.folsomstreetevents.org
- International Mr. Leather www.imrl.com
- International Ms. Leather and Boot Black www.imslbb.org
- Kink Academy www.KinkAcademy.com
- Kinkly Kinkly.com
- Kinsey Institute www.kinseyinstitute.org
- Leather and LGBTQ Cultural District, SF https://sfleatherdistrict.org/
- Leather Archives and Museum www.leatherarchives.org
- Lesbian Herstory Archives www.lesbianherstoryarchives.org
- Lesbian Sex Mafia www.lesbainsexmafia.org
- Museum of Sex www.museumofsex.com
- National Coalition for Sexual Freedom www.NCSFreedom.org
- National Leather Association International www.NLA-international.com
- Lavender Library and Cultural Exchange www.llace.org
- Sexual Alpha SexualAlpha.com
- Society of Janus www.soj.org
- The Exiles (lesbain org) www.theexiles.org
- Wicked Grounds www.WickedGrounds.com
- Woodhull Freedom Foundation www.woodhullfoundation.org
Books
Consent
- SSC v. Rack https://epochryphal.wordpress.com/2015/02/16/rack-vs-ssc-kink-consent-ableism-agency/
- Negotiating a BDSM Scene https://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/negotiating-a-bdsm-scene/
- DevianceAndDesire 1 page negotiation form https://www.devianceanddesire.com/2016/04/tonight-i-want-negotiation-sheet/
- Kink Weekly Negotiation Checklist https://www.kinkweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/BDSM-negotiation-checklist.pdf
- Jay Wiseman Negotiation Long Form https://www.evilmonk.org/a/wiseman10.cfm
- Kink Closet Beginners BDSM Contracts https://www.lovense.com/bdsm-blog/bdsm-contract
- Midori Negotiating Consent Video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9s0VVjIi38
- American Sex Podcast with Guest Midori “Hotter Negotiation” http://sunnymegatron.com/hotter-negotiation-midori-podcast/
- Kink Academy Podcast with Selena Minx “Negotiation is Hard!” https://erotication.libsyn.com/negotiation-is-hard-selina-minx-makes-it-easy
General Information
- “The Ultimate Beginner’s Guide” by Couple’s Candy
- Blanton, Rebecca. Love Letters to a Unicorn: A book about kink, BDSM, and non-monogamy.(2nd edition)
- Blanton, Rebecca. The Big Workbook for Submissives.
- Brame, William, Gloria Brame, and John Williams. (2011). Different Loving: A Complete Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission. Random House: New York.
- Califia, Pat and Robin Davies. (2012). Public Sex.
- Cruz, Ariane. The Color of Kink.
- Easson, Dossie. The Topping Book
- Easson, Dossie and Janet Hardy. The Ethical Slut
- Easson, Dossie and Janet Hardy. The Bottoming Book
- Harrington, Lee. Playing Well with Others.
- Kali, Princess. 365 Days of Kink.
- Midori. Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink
- Thompson, Mark, Dorothy Allison, Guy Baldwin, etc. (2013). Leatherfolk: Radical sex, people, politics, and practice. Deadalus Press: New York.
- Wiseman, Jay.. SM 101
Impact Play
Pet Play
“A Glimpse Into the World of Puppy Play”
Rope
- Harrington, Lee and Rigger Jay. Shibari You Can Use.
- Midori and Craig Morey. The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage.
- Tizano, Shay. Tying and Flying.
- Two Knotty Boys and Larry Utley. Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes.
- Vane, Evie. Better Bondage for Every Body.
HEALTH, AGING, and DISABILITY
- ChronicSex.org
- Disability After Dark
- Hedonish
- Notte, JoEllen. The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We are Not Having.
BLOGS
- Erotic Awakening
- Kink Academy: Blog posts, video instruction and more from top kink educators!
- Kink Doctor
- Spices of Lust
- Submissive Feminist: Personal blog
- Submissive Guide All things submissive. Well informed and sourced.
- Sugarbutch D/s, queer, gender nonconforming
- Wicked Grounds Blogs, classes and more!
- A Kinky Autistic
- Afrosexology
- Love Letters to a Unicorn
- Rain DeGrey
- Submissive Feminist
- Sunny Megatron
PODCASTS
- American Sex Podcast
- Bawdy Storytelling
- The Dildorks
- Disability After Dark
- Kink Academy Podcast
- Kink and Coffee
- Kink Craft
- Kinky Queer Revolution
- Loving BDSM
- Masocast
- Off the Cuffs
- People of Kink
- Poly Role Models
- Practically Kinky
- Sluts and Scholars
People I Follow On Twitter
| @Hedonis | @Bondageland | @Master_Venture | @Imani_Barbarin | @MinkoffPeter |
| @Redheadbedhead | @BDSMOxy | @OnQueerStreet | @KinkifyMe | @SacLLACE |
| @WickedGrounds | @CoffeeandKink | @IndigoIsAnAdult | @BadQueersPodcast | @PupAmp |
| @DirtyLola | @Smutlancer | @BestBondage | @tantus | @KittenBohem |
| @Epiphora | @DrLizPowell | @MySexToyFinger | @Bawdy | @KinkyAutistic |
| @Kinkly | @SexHealthInfo | @LoveSohimi | @RISKshow | @sfSubmission |
| @SunnyMegatron | @ChronicSexChat | @MBolt2014 | @TheSTIProject | @HeatherMSW |
| @SubFeminist | @SpicesofLust | @yrfatfriend | @TheLadyMiyabi | @STDCheck |
| @TheWenchWorks | @MrSexsmith | @IMsLBB2019 | @FOMNZ | @DCBiDoc |
| @BannonRace | @AutoStraddle | @FistingFans | @InvisDisComedy | @CLFEvent |
There are a lot of blogs out there on WordPress that chronicle the personal experiences of D/s relationships. I didn’t recognize the ones on your list, will go have a look thought. Thanks for sharing!
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