BDSM Resources

I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good place to start. I will continue to update over time.

Education and Kink Organization Sites 

BDSM Education Center  

Black Rose 

Center for Sex Positive Culture 

Community Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualitites has a list of BDSM groups across the US

Folsom Street Events 

International Mr. Leather 

International Ms. Leather and Boot Black 

Kink Academy 

Kinsey Institute 

Leather and LGBTQ Cultural District, SF 

Leather Archives and Museum 

Lesbian Herstory Archives 

Lesbian Sex Mafia 

Museum of Sex 

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

National Leather Association International 

Lavender Library and Cultural Exchange 

Society of Janus 

The Exiles (lesbain org) 

Wicked Grounds Woodhull Freedom Foundation



General Information

“The Ultimate Beginner’s Guide” by Couple’s Candy

Blanton, Rebecca. Love Letters to a Unicorn: A book about kink, BDSM, and non-monogamy.(2nd edition)

Blanton, Rebecca. The Big Workbook for Submissives.

Brame, William, Gloria Brame, and John Williams. (2011). Different Loving: A Complete Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission. Random House: New York.

Califia, Pat and Robin Davies. (2012). Public Sex.

Cruz, Ariane. The Color of Kink.

Easton, Dossie. The Topping Book

Easton, Dossie and Janet Hardy. The Ethical Slut

Easton, Dossie and Janet Hardy. The Bottoming Book

Harrington, Lee. Playing Well with Others.

Kali, Princess. 365 Days of Kink.

Midori.  Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink

Thompson, Mark, Dorothy Allison, Guy Baldwin, etc. (2013). Leatherfolk: Radical sex, people, politics, and practice. Deadalus Press: New York.

Wiessman, Jay.. SM 101

Impact Play

“Impact Play Safe Zones”

Pet Play

“A Glimpse Into the World of Puppy Play”


iHarrington, Jay and Rigger Jay. Shibari You Can Use.

Midori and Craig Morey.  The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage.

Two Knotty Boys and Larry Utley. Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes.

Vane, Evie. Better Bondage for Every Body.


Erotic Awakening

Kink Academy: Blog posts, video instruction and more from top kink educators!

Kink Doctor

Spices of Lust

Submissive Feminist: Personal blog

Submissive Guide All things submissive. Well informed and sourced.

Sugarbutch D/s, queer, gender nonconforming

Wicked Grounds Blogs, classes and more!

A Kinky Autistic


Love Letters to a Unicorn

Rain DeGrey

Submissive Feminist

Sunny Megatron


American Sex Podcast

Bawdy Storytelling

The Dildorks

Disability After Dark

Kink Academy Podcast

Kink and Coffee

Kink Craft

Kinky Queer Revolution

Loving BDSM


Off the Cuffs

People of Kink

Poly Role Models

Practically Kinky

One comment

  1. There are a lot of blogs out there on WordPress that chronicle the personal experiences of D/s relationships. I didn’t recognize the ones on your list, will go have a look thought. Thanks for sharing!


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