It is almost the end of 2021. I know mine has been exhausting. While the career aspect is going strong and health is slowly improving, other areas have been trying… to put it gently. Its the time of year we sit and reflect on what has happened, what we wanted to happen, and the gap between.
It is also a time we start to think about how we want to approach the new year. While I have never been a big New Year’s resolution fan, preferring to set and change goals throughout the year as the need arises, I recognize for many of you, this is the big list time!
New Year’s Resolutions often take the shape of goals at the 30,000 foot level. These are big, overarching goals such as: lose weight, get in shape, get happier, better myself, improve my career. Rarely do we set reasonable goal posts or drill down into the why behind our resolution.
Additionally, we rarely set goals for things like intimacy, sex, or meeting our own desires. These things get lumped in with relationship or health/body goals. This year, I invite you to make specific resolutions to improve your sex life, your intimacy, and hone in on what you want in those specific areas.
Below are step-by-step guidelines to help you find language to specific what you want to improve in the areas of sex and intimacy.
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Join me December 26th at 6 PM PST/9 PM EST online thorugh Wicked Grounds for my FREE goal setting class and preview of my “30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery” class.
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Guide to Goal Setting for Desires
Step 1: Answer the following questions.
- Are sex and intimacy linked for you?
- Are you having the type of sex you want some of the time?
- What is the difference between the sex you are having and the sex you want?
- Are your intimacy needs being met by your partner(s)?
Step 2: What do you want to change or grow in 2022 with regard to sex and intimacy?
Step 3: What has stopped you in previous years for getting what you want and desire in these areas?
Step 4: Set an overarching goal for your sex and intimacy journey in 2022?
Step 5: Write down at least three things you can do to help you reach your goal.
NOW- put this information somewhere it can be referenced on a regular basis. This might be writted down and stored in your journal. It might be in a coumpter file. It could even be in an audio file on your phone.
Set a reminder in your calendar to check on this goal at least 3 times in 2022.
Happy New Year!