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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 3, 20244 min read
Yes/No/Maybe List for Mental Health Symtpoms
Helpful tool for identifying the symptoms you have and what symptoms you are comfortable with in an intimate partner
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 23, 20246 min read
Can People with Mental Illness Consent?
Can people lliving with mental illness fully consent to BDSM play?
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 16, 20245 min read
Risk-Aware Kink Quiz
Take a short quiz and test your knowledge of Risk Aware Kink!
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 12, 20244 min read
Erotic Choking 101
There is no safe or "safer" way to erotically choke someone. Louder for those of you with earbuds in: THERE IS NO SAFE OR "SAFER" WAY TO...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 29, 20243 min read
Communicating About Sex is Hard! Make It Easier with These Tips
The most common advice a sex ed writer (including myself) gives for any question is to communicate. Communication about needs, desires,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 22, 20243 min read
I Can’t Ask For That! What to do when you are embarrassed about what you want in bed
If you are a frequent reader of sex advice columns, you will quickly come to notice the number of letters which begin “I am so...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 7, 20245 min read
The Gift of "No."
We are at the start of a new calendar year. This means folks out here with lots of resolutions to do new things, restart practices they...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 6, 20234 min read
Asking for It
I've seen an increasing number of studies demonstrating that female (researchers only asked cis women) desire declines in long term...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 10, 20232 min read
Become a Better Submissive by Understanding Internal Narratives
There are as many reasons people enjoy submission as there are folks who submit in sex or relationships. Our desires for power exchange...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 28, 20233 min read
Deeper and Deeper....
The physical activities of kink - spanking, tying up people, blindfolds- are what most folks think this lifestyle is all about. Putting...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 13, 20237 min read
Security Protocols: How Adding Protocols to Your Relationship May Reduce Anxiety
Anxiety is a common mental health issue. Protocols in a relationship can help reduce and manage it.
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 7, 20234 min read
Negotiating Flexibility Into Your Dynamic
So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 19, 20224 min read
Find a New Kink for 2023
As we close one calendar year and move into the next, many of us take time to evaluate and make goals or wishes for the coming year. If...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 3, 20227 min read
Grooming as BDSM and D/s
Most of BDSM and kink skills focus on techniques for different types of play (e.g., flogging, spanking). However, the world of BDSM is...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 7, 20225 min read
Undoing Religious Damage with BDSM
How to start addressing trauma and damage from a sex-negative upbringing.
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 19, 20225 min read
Is Your Kink Practice Missing Something Critical?
If you have been listening to Fat Chicks on Top , you know I’ve been talking to a variety of kinky folks who entered the scene over 20...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 26, 20226 min read
This Could Save Your Life!
Kink play can be intense! That is part of the fun of it. We play physically and psychologically hard. Weather you are into impact play,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 24, 20222 min read
Sexual Fantasy Research
Sponsored Post We don’t tend to talk about sexual fantasies with many people. Too many of us carry shame around the things we know turn...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 11, 20225 min read
Things Are Terrifying! How Do I Keep Going?
I was lucky enough to get to interview Mir Green from Wicked Grounds today and it helped me refine a few thoughts I have been playing...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 10, 20224 min read
Unfuck Yourself for Pride
Being part of the LGBTQ+ community means growning up in societies where we are not supported or embraced by the majority. If we are lucky...
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