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Can I Be a Submissive Who HATES Service?
Can I be a submissive and hate service?
Rebecca Blanton
Feb 286 min read
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Yes/No/Maybe List for Mental Health Symtpoms
Helpful tool for identifying the symptoms you have and what symptoms you are comfortable with in an intimate partner
Rebecca Blanton
Sep 3, 20244 min read
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Risk-Aware Kink Quiz
Take a short quiz and test your knowledge of Risk Aware Kink!
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 16, 20245 min read
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Erotic Choking 101
There is no safe or "safer" way to erotically choke someone. Louder for those of you with earbuds in: THERE IS NO SAFE OR "SAFER" WAY TO...
Rebecca Blanton
Apr 12, 20244 min read
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Communicating About Sex is Hard! Make It Easier with These Tips
The most common advice a sex ed writer (including myself) gives for any question is to communicate. Communication about needs, desires,...
Rebecca Blanton
Feb 29, 20243 min read
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I Can’t Ask For That! What to do when you are embarrassed about what you want in bed
If you are a frequent reader of sex advice columns, you will quickly come to notice the number of letters which begin “I am so...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 22, 20243 min read
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The Gift of "No."
We are at the start of a new calendar year. This means folks out here with lots of resolutions to do new things, restart practices they...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 7, 20245 min read
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Asking for It
I've seen an increasing number of studies demonstrating that female (researchers only asked cis women) desire declines in long term...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 6, 20234 min read
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Guide to Making Butt Stuff FUN!
This post has been sponsored by LoveHoney. Curious about anal sex? Not a fan of anal sex but want to try other butt stuff? Your Auntie...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 28, 20235 min read
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Negotiating Flexibility Into Your Dynamic
So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...
Rebecca Blanton
Feb 7, 20234 min read
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Resolutions and Practices of Happy Couples
Sponsored by LoveHoney With the New Year just around the corner, many of us will be working on our resolutions for 2023. But in the midst...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 9, 20233 min read
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Why is sexting with strangers only possible on a secure chat site?
SPONSORED POST from AROUSR Chatting with strangers isn’t really something that you have to go out of your way to find. There are lots of...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 30, 20224 min read
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This Could Save Your Life!
Kink play can be intense! That is part of the fun of it. We play physically and psychologically hard. Weather you are into impact play,...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 26, 20226 min read
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7 Ways to Expand Your Dynamic
BDSM and power exchange is often portrayed as something which exists as something in the bedroom. Yes, a large part of people’s dynamics...
Rebecca Blanton
Apr 22, 20224 min read
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The #1 Thing Dom(me)s Hate!
I work with a lot of kinky folks of all identities and levels of experience. When I talk to folks from the left side of the slash, they...
Rebecca Blanton
Mar 28, 20224 min read
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One Question Every Submissive Needs to Answer
When I am on my knees, looking up at my Dom, waiting on his command, I am in complete bliss. There is something wonderful and liberating...
Rebecca Blanton
Feb 21, 20222 min read
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EARN IT Act: Using the pretense of child sexual exploitation to invade privacy
Ah, politicians are once again engaging in a favorite past-time: fanning fears of massive child predator rings as a pretense to get rid...
Rebecca Blanton
Feb 9, 20226 min read
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Head Space 101
If you have spent any time on kink blogs, podcasts, or in a class, you have heard people mention “head space.” Head space refers to the...
Rebecca Blanton
Feb 5, 20226 min read
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How To Communicate When You Hate Long Talks
Communication is key. You have heard it hundreds, if not thousands of time when it comes to creating successful relationships and...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 24, 20224 min read
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