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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.

Nov 67 min read

A Community Survivial Guide

Practical guide to surviving 2025 and beyone

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Apr 284 min read

Empath? Maybe. Trauma-Survivor? Probably.

Are you an empath or is it just unaddressed trauma?

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Jan 223 min read

I Can’t Ask For That! What to do when you are embarrassed about what you want in bed

If you are a frequent reader of sex advice columns, you will quickly come to notice the number of letters which begin “I am so...

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Nov 9, 20234 min read

Finding Out What You Really Want from Intimacy

Sex education is all sorts for messed up! The best we offer kids is showing them how to put a condom on a banana. To quote Dr. Sprankle:...

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Oct 6, 20234 min read

Asking for It

I've seen an increasing number of studies demonstrating that female (researchers only asked cis women) desire declines in long term...

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May 28, 20233 min read

Deeper and Deeper....

The physical activities of kink - spanking, tying up people, blindfolds- are what most folks think this lifestyle is all about. Putting...

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Feb 7, 20234 min read

Negotiating Flexibility Into Your Dynamic

So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...

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Jan 9, 20233 min read

Resolutions and Practices of Happy Couples

Sponsored by LoveHoney With the New Year just around the corner, many of us will be working on our resolutions for 2023. But in the midst...

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Aug 19, 20225 min read

Is Your Kink Practice Missing Something Critical?

If you have been listening to Fat Chicks on Top, you know I’ve been talking to a variety of kinky folks who entered the scene over 20...

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Jul 29, 20224 min read

Why is sexting with strangers only possible on a secure chat site?

SPONSORED POST from AROUSR Chatting with strangers isn’t really something that you have to go out of your way to find. There are lots of...

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May 25, 20222 min read

A Sexy Bucket List: How many have you done?

I am a fan of sexual and intimacy goal setting. It is a way to prioritize your pleasure and not let it languish as life happens. It also...

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Apr 22, 20224 min read

7 Ways to Expand Your Dynamic

BDSM and power exchange is often portrayed as something which exists as something in the bedroom. Yes, a large part of people’s dynamics...

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Feb 5, 20226 min read

Head Space 101

If you have spent any time on kink blogs, podcasts, or in a class, you have heard people mention “head space.” Head space refers to the...

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Jan 24, 20224 min read

How To Communicate When You Hate Long Talks

Communication is key. You have heard it hundreds, if not thousands of time when it comes to creating successful relationships and...

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Jan 17, 20221 min read

Fetlife How-To’s

Thought about joining Fetlife.com but have some concerns? Worried that your employer or ex-spouse will find your account and out you?...

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Jan 12, 20224 min read

Dating in an On-going Pandemic

Being single, or at least being in a position to date, during the pandemic is challenging. We all crave human touch and interaction. We...

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Nov 1, 20213 min read

Home For the Holidays? Ways to stay kinky while visiting relatives

Nothing puts a damper of getting down and dirty as visiting the parents for the holidays! With mom, dad, the kids, grandparents, or other...

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Aug 15, 20213 min read

An Introduction to Body Affirming Kink Play

Feeling bad about your body is common. Regardless of your actual weight, height, ability, shape, gender, or age, anyone can feel bad...

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Jun 22, 20217 min read

7 Tips for Hosting an Orgy

As more of us get vaccinated and back out there, so many of y’all are posting about having a slutty summer. Yay! I strongly encourage...

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Jun 2, 20214 min read

Why Mantras Are Important to BDSM

You are probably familiar with mantras. They are short statements or words said repeatedly to help focus you. They are rooted in Buddhism...

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