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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 17, 20222 min read
“No White People Left Behind”
Imani Barbarin I had a wonderful conversation with disabilities activist Imani Barbarin. You can hear our conversation here or the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 7, 20215 min read
4 Unexepected ways Audio Porn is Better Than Sex
By April Sutphen Sponsored Post Some people might argue that there’s no better feeling in the world than having sex, when in actuality,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 2, 20215 min read
7 Tips When You Are New to Kink
Whether you personally are new to kink, or you are dating someone new to kink, it is an exciting time filled with fun and learning! It...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 29, 20214 min read
7 Tips to Help You Screen For Abusers on Kink Sites
In a most predictable move, once BDSM became a topic most American’s had heard about, abusers co-opted its language to justify their...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 4, 20212 min read
25 Books to Read & 25 Movies to Watch this PRIDE Month
Books This is a list of queer books that have stayed with me. I provide only the citation and genre so that you can enjoy them without...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 28, 202112 min read
What Is a Submissive’s Responsibility?
I love it when I come across people writing about submission in a deep and thoughtful way! If you have not discovered The Pleasure Coach,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 15, 20214 min read
7 Tips for Navigating the Post-COVID Kink World
Things are beginning to open back up in the United States and elsewhere. While we are not at a point with public health to fully reopen...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 11, 20215 min read
6 Tips on Making Your Kink Venue/Event Emotionally/Socially Accessible (Part 2)
Physical accessibility is only part of the picture when it comes to making spaces and events accessible. That is often the easy part! If...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 31, 20205 min read
Election 2020 and Erotic Power
With the 2020 election just days from now, I have spent an enormous amount of time thinking about power: structural power, institutional...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 25, 20203 min read
BDSM Resources (updated 01.09.22)
I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 19, 20206 min read
5 Ways BDSM Will Improve Your Life
Most people think BDSM is just about the sex. It is often reduced to sexual and sexualized acts, especially in mainstream media...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 27, 20194 min read
Sexier Sex? Plan for it!
I can remember the first time I read Macho Sluts by Pat Califia. While all the sex was really hot, a few of the stories stood out because...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 18, 20193 min read
Why Collars Are Important to BDSM
Guest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 2, 20182 min read
Free the Pussy, Free the World
I have spent nearly 30 years working in political activism. My graduate work in political psychology focused on identity, education and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 4, 20184 min read
Adding the K to “LGBTQ+” – NO
There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 19, 20186 min read
Switching It Up
A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 8, 20186 min read
Consent 201
It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 3, 20185 min read
Is Non-Binary the Future of Gender?
News headlines are floating around about 20 percent of Millennials identifying as “non-binary.” This is based on a new study by GLAAD...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 21, 20177 min read
Power of Apologies
I have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 16, 20175 min read
Beyond ” Me Too”
This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...
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