Can I be a submissive and hate service?

There are as many reasons people enjoy submission as there are folks who submit in sex or relationships. Our desires for power exchange...

So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...

Most of BDSM and kink skills focus on techniques for different types of play (e.g., flogging, spanking). However, the world of BDSM is...

In the world of BDMS, power exchange, and kinky shenanigans, people who identify as having a 24/7 dynamic are often seen as the “ideal”...

BDSM and power exchange is often portrayed as something which exists as something in the bedroom. Yes, a large part of people’s dynamics...

Nothing puts a damper of getting down and dirty as visiting the parents for the holidays! With mom, dad, the kids, grandparents, or other...

One of the most difficult issues of being a submissive or other s-type is having a disagreement with your dominant. Power exchange...

Feeling bad about your body is common. Regardless of your actual weight, height, ability, shape, gender, or age, anyone can feel bad...

Aftercare is a frequently mentioned idea in kink/BDSM classes and touted as “important” for safe, sane, and consensual play. Most of the...

January 2021 brings both the desire to set goals for the new year and marks ten months in various stages of lockdown for most of us. Many...

Happy Holidays! Here is a little kinky holiday porn for y’all. CW: Impact play, body fluids Elise sat by the fire on the early morning of...

Many of us identify as “service submissives.” We enjoy serving others (at least we enjoy serving a D-type). Some of us (including me)...

I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good...

A vast percentage of posts about submission and control (including mine) are about the relationship between a submissive and their...

Most people think BDSM is just about the sex. It is often reduced to sexual and sexualized acts, especially in mainstream media...

There is the myth that the Inuit have some amazing number of words for snow. They don’t- but we have all heard the myth. The concept is...

I adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a...

Shyness is something I have had a problem with personally. However, I have had several partners who are deeply reticent to talk about...

A short sci-fi, nonbinary erotica for your enjoyment! New Boobs Mica set the large, black box xe was carrying on the library table by the...