I find being agender weird. Most days, really about 98 percent of the time, I could care less about my gender. I am a feminist for...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...

In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...

Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....

Lately I feel like I am watching one of those suspense or horror films where the protagonist makes a mistake in the beginning (e.g.,...

I have never chosen a partner to make a political point. However, I live in a country where my body and my sexuality are constantly under...

The presence of non-binary gendered folks is becoming more known. Some groups in the kink and queer worlds are starting to recognize that...

I had the great honor this weekend to chair a panel at CatalystCon in Los Angeles. I presented a panel with Joie de Vivre and Diana Hong...

I get naked in public… a lot. I do burlesque and performance art with a number of groups and much of it involves taking my clothes off....

What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement,  but most people- even those who agree- often...

After teaching my class “Power Exchange and Mental Illness” several times and corresponding with folks online who have read my writing...

I have been overwhelmed by the number of stories in the past few weeks about the horrors brought about by men who did not feel like they...

The first time I was really made aware of the fact that I was a “girl” was in first grade. Until this point, I had remained blissfully...

I debated a lot before I decided to post this blog entry. I have been active in the LGBTQ movement for thirty years now. I know the...

Recently I have seen a lot of memes and other social media that is similar to the above posting. They all have examples of parents...

I have been called out on this blog several times for referring to myself as a “girl.” There are people out there, mostly women, who hate...

I have written here about being agendered. I am working on an extended piece for my next book. In doing that, I have been speaking with...

You Got To Be Real – Cheryl Lynn (1978) There are few things in English I hate more than the insistence of modifying a social construct...

We are all born naked. Everything else is drag. ~RuPaul I want to take a concept from sexual orientation and evolve it to relate to...