Resources to help manage existential dread

Queer joy is essential to surviving the next 4- 40 years. Why and how to harness your joy.

The one thing I know for sure, after years of teaching and lobbying legislatures, is that facts don’t move opinions. Stories do. It is...

I’m voting pro ho this election. For months, weird Donny has been calling Kamala Harris a “ho.” He has made claims that she will be “the...

I was appointed to political office while active on a porn site. Here are my thoughts on the Mark Robinson scandal. I moved to California...

Masturbation is inherently anti-capitalist. I've been playing with that concept for the last month and have come to really believe that...

I was lucky enough to get to interview Mir Green from Wicked Grounds today and it helped me refine a few thoughts I have been playing...

Being part of the LGBTQ+ community means growning up in societies where we are not supported or embraced by the majority. If we are lucky...

Imani Barbarin I had a wonderful conversation with disabilities activist Imani Barbarin. You can hear our conversation here or the...

Ah, politicians are once again engaging in a favorite past-time: fanning fears of massive child predator rings as a pretense to get rid...

Dating while kinky can be fun. It can also be immensely frustrating! Finding and connecting with a partner who matches you on desire,...

Four years ago I posted about the difficulty of navigating BDSM and racism. The language we use (Master/slave) and many of our practices...

Happy Pride Month! This year Pride has been cancelled in most locations due to COVID-19 and celebrations are looking a bit different....

I’m feeling old and crotchety after a month of Pride. Maybe its because I have been doing Pride for more than three decades and it is not...

For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...

I have spent nearly 30 years working in political activism. My graduate work in political psychology focused on identity, education and...

There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...

It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...

This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...

We come out today because Cleve designed and Gilbert sewed; Alvin danced And RuPaul doesn’t always wear pants. Leslie got the Stone Butch...