I was appointed to political office while active on a porn site. Here are my thoughts on the Mark Robinson scandal. I moved to California...

Imani Barbarin I had a wonderful conversation with disabilities activist Imani Barbarin. You can hear our conversation here or the...

Four years ago I posted about the difficulty of navigating BDSM and racism. The language we use (Master/slave) and many of our practices...

Happy Pride Month! This year Pride has been cancelled in most locations due to COVID-19 and celebrations are looking a bit different....

In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...

We are six days out from the shock of the cheeto’s election. Things are starting to clarify how various social justice groups are going...

I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...

When I woke to news of the mass murders in Orlando last month I was devastated. The pain was visceral. I cried for days. Dozens of my...

I write a lot about interracial dating and am open that I tend to date Black men. I want to address the personal ads and online dating...

The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...