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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 19, 20163 min read
36 Questions You Should Ask Your Partner(s)
Immediacy is valued by many. We want what we want and we want it now! The whole concept of delayed gratification has become nearly...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 2, 20164 min read
Are Safe Words Necessary?
One of the core principles of BDSM play is that players, all players, have a right to protect their body and mind. We stress consent,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 20, 20165 min read
S-type Must be Autonomous
I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 26, 20167 min read
Consent: 2016 sstyle
One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 12, 20164 min read
On Certainty
At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 19, 20163 min read
The Need to Serve
Service is quintessential to much of submission. Submissives of many ilks incorporate some form of service into their submission. We...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 6, 20165 min read
Measuring Up: Part Two
I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 1, 20165 min read
Is Submission a Gift?
“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 10, 20155 min read
Is Sex Always Part of BDSM?
I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 4, 20156 min read
Open Letter to Dominants
Dear Doms and Dommes: Thank you. Thank you for enjoying your role on the left of the slash. Without you, my life would not be nearly as...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 29, 20157 min read
The ‘Woo’ of Kink
My last post about sub space got a flood of responses. Most of the 3,000+ people who replied here and on Fetlife were very complimentary....
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 25, 20156 min read
What Everyone Needs to Know About Sub Space
Image from www.korucorner.co.nz All rights reserved. When I was an undergrad, I took a course on altered states of consciousness. The...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 15, 20156 min read
Loving a Sub with Mental Illness
I live with Bipolar I. I have since I was about 11, diagnosed at 20. It is fundamental to who I am and I have never not thought about it...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 16, 20157 min read
Feminism, Bad Feminism, Choice, and Submission
I am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 29, 20157 min read
Myths About Submission
I want to talk about perceptions versus reality of submission. There are a lot of misconceptions for both vanilla folks and newbie...
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