Listen on Spotify Want to stimulate the biggest sex organ for anyone? You need to get their brain aroused! While many of us rely on...

Listen on Spotify One of my favorite scenes from a movie is the therapy scene in the beginning of The Ref. Judy Davis and Kevin Spacey...

Safe words are one of the most referenced kink ideas. The concept of a simple word which stops all action and indicates someone is not...

Valentine’s Day is rapidly approaching (again). Even if you are jaded toward this corporate day of forced romance and sex, you can still...

January 2021 brings both the desire to set goals for the new year and marks ten months in various stages of lockdown for most of us. Many...

Four years ago I posted about the difficulty of navigating BDSM and racism. The language we use (Master/slave) and many of our practices...

Happy Holidays! Here is a little kinky holiday porn for y’all. CW: Impact play, body fluids Elise sat by the fire on the early morning of...

I am so excited to announce I will be working with Wicked Grounds to host “30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery” in January 2021. So many...

With the 2020 election just days from now, I have spent an enormous amount of time thinking about power: structural power, institutional...

Many of us identify as “service submissives.” We enjoy serving others (at least we enjoy serving a D-type). Some of us (including me)...

A formatted and printable version of this post is located here: 30 days of kinky self-discoveryDownload I’ll be honest. I have been...

So, you want to try fisting. Or you heard about it. Or you tried it and it didn’t quite work. Well, let me welcome you to the wonderful...

I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good...

A vast percentage of posts about submission and control (including mine) are about the relationship between a submissive and their...

With shelter in place orders dragging on more folks are trying sexting and sexy video chatting as an alternative to in-person hook-ups....

Hot take: A majority of folks you date will have dissimilar sexual needs and tastes than you do. Most couples I have met over my 40+...

Howdy readers! I taught my “Deepening Your Submission” workshop last night through Wicked Grounds Annex. Participants asked that I put...

Social distancing has definitely put a cramp in many sex lives. Online dating profiles are now including things like, “I have toilet...

Most people think BDSM is just about the sex. It is often reduced to sexual and sexualized acts, especially in mainstream media...

Pervertables – items intended for non-kinky purposes used for kink play – are some of my favorite toys! I love incorporating everyday...