D-types and Mental Illness
After teaching my class “Power Exchange and Mental Illness” several times and corresponding with folks online who have read my writing...
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 19, 20163 min read
The Need to Serve
Service is quintessential to much of submission. Submissives of many ilks incorporate some form of service into their submission. We...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 6, 20164 min read
Submission and Mental Illness
My first serious girlfriend told me I was not worth the risk to marry because I had Bipolar. She knew this when we got together. Still,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 22, 20164 min read
So, What is Sex-Positive & Why Do I Care?
Sex positive has become a new catchphrase in the professional word of sex educators and writers and body-positive movement folks. I am...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 10, 20167 min read
Consent, 2016 Style
Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 16, 20165 min read
Comimg Out
I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 6, 20165 min read
Measuring Up: Part Two
I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 26, 20163 min read
Is This Weird???
Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 25, 20163 min read
Am I Doing this Right????
Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 1, 20165 min read
Is Submission a Gift?
“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 18, 20166 min read
In Sickness and In Health…
I have been away from this blog for a couple of weeks due to illness. For two and a half years I have been trying to get some chronic...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 18, 20165 min read
The Good, the Bad, the Ugly
I want to talk about sources and research about BDSM and D/s relationships. With the development of the Internet, it has become very easy...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 27, 20154 min read
You’ve Done Everything!!!
Okay, yes, I have done a lot of things. And yes, I have done a lot of people. And sure, I talk about some of it. But, no I haven’t done...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 10, 20155 min read
Is Sex Always Part of BDSM?
I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 3, 20152 min read
Geeks, Nerds, Grammar Nazi’s and Kink
http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/grownups.png xkcd.com/150/ In many, many ways I am a nerd. I am an academic and still default to researching...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 18, 20154 min read
So, you want to date a poly girl…
Guys, some of us girls have found out your secrets. We know that there are a lot of you who use online dating sites to find Ms. Right Now...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 15, 20154 min read
Etiquette: How Not to be a Dick
One of the things I like most about the BDSM/kink community is the presence of rules and structure. These come in basic rules for...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 29, 20157 min read
The ‘Woo’ of Kink
My last post about sub space got a flood of responses. Most of the 3,000+ people who replied here and on Fetlife were very complimentary....
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 25, 20156 min read
What Everyone Needs to Know About Sub Space
Image from www.korucorner.co.nz All rights reserved. When I was an undergrad, I took a course on altered states of consciousness. The...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 22, 20156 min read
Born This Way?
There is a local comedian in Sacramento who does a great joke. She starts with the premise that her parents used to spank her. Now, she...
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