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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 6, 20186 min read
Topping From the Bottom
I can’t believe I haven’t written a blog post on topping from the bottom! How could I be so remiss of addressing a topic which comes up...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 27, 201810 min read
10 Things Everyone Can Learn from Kink
One of the most fortuitous events in my life was discovering the kinky world at about the same time I started puberty. It provided me...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 1, 20187 min read
How to Love Your Anxious Partner
Living with anxiety is a bitch. We all experience anxiety at some point in our lives. However, lots of folks live with anxiety as part of...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 21, 20189 min read
Negotiation 101 for Subby Types
We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 12, 20185 min read
Sexual Healing (part 2)
When I was in one of my basic psychology courses in undergrad, the professor described sublimation with the following example. Say you...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 27, 20185 min read
Sexual Healing (part 1)
The theme of healing through kink has come up repeatedly in both my reading and real life a lot lately. For me, this is a touchy subject....
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 9, 20186 min read
5 Skills for Fighting Fair in Kinky Relationships
Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 4, 20185 min read
Planning a Scene
I love planning scenes. Figuring out the details, setting up the situations, and preparing the tools and clothing for a scene has always...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 22, 20184 min read
Identifying vs. Becoming
In the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 17, 20186 min read
Top 10 Tips for Loving Someone Loving with Mental Illness
It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 25, 20188 min read
Fetlife Protest Isn’t Just a “Feminist Thing”
For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 18, 20186 min read
R.E.S.P.E.C.T. & Relationships
Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 4, 20184 min read
Adding the K to “LGBTQ+” – NO
There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 22, 20185 min read
7 Tips for the New Switch
So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 19, 20186 min read
Switching It Up
A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 8, 20186 min read
Consent 201
It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 21, 20177 min read
Power of Apologies
I have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 23, 20177 min read
The Submissive’s Body & Chronic Pain
The submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 7, 20175 min read
Help! I’m Kinky and I’m Broke!
The U.S. kink community, like the rest of the United States, is experiencing a growing divide between the “haves” and “have-nots.” As...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 16, 20175 min read
Get Out of Your Head!
I want to address the apparently growing trend of discovering and practicing kink without connecting to actual humans you are not having...
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