Should Kink Assimilate?
Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 8, 20173 min read
In Praise of “Just a Phase”
We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 2, 20173 min read
Kinky Resistance
Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 31, 20172 min read
My Body, The Asshole
I have written before in this blog about living with and engaging in power exchange relationships while living with a mental illness. I...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 19, 20163 min read
36 Questions You Should Ask Your Partner(s)
Immediacy is valued by many. We want what we want and we want it now! The whole concept of delayed gratification has become nearly...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 6, 20165 min read
Good Kinky Fun vs. Abuse
If I am really honest about some kink behavior, it looks like abuse out of context. I have seen more than one play scene where the bottom...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 22, 20163 min read
Giving Thanks
Since Thanksgiving is this week in the United States, I am going to step out of the series of posts on community building and give thanks...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 21, 20165 min read
And What Did Protocol Give You?
I love protocols. I have found safety and security in protocol for years. It helps me get into submissive head space. It can create...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 19, 20165 min read
Kinky Folks, We Better Work
Hey my kinky peeps! I love you. I do. But, as a community, we have got some work to do. We are not inclusive as we should be. We are...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 10, 20163 min read
Build Community, Not Walls
The recent election of the racist cheeto has many folks in the kink community reeling. We are hurt and horrified by the hate harbored in...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 8, 20162 min read
My First Times
Since America is voting today and will either get the first female president or its first/last dictator supreme, I figured I would post...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 2, 20164 min read
Are Safe Words Necessary?
One of the core principles of BDSM play is that players, all players, have a right to protect their body and mind. We stress consent,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 20, 20165 min read
S-type Must be Autonomous
I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 11, 20165 min read
Is BDSM Inescapably Racist?
I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 26, 20167 min read
Consent: 2016 sstyle
One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 12, 20164 min read
On Certainty
At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 7, 20165 min read
Triggers
Talking about “triggers” and starting posts and group discussions with “trigger warnings” is now de riguer in the kink community. It has...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 3, 20164 min read
Protecting Men with a National Safe Word
By now, you have probably seen images from BDSM/kink movies or pornography. You may have tied up a date or given someone a spanking. It’s...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 21, 20165 min read
Polyamory as a Sexual Orientation???
Vice.com just put out an article about people seeking to qualify polyamory as a sexual orientation. It’s not, but don’t stop reading....
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 17, 20165 min read
Do It For the Children! Media Representation
What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement, but most people- even those who agree- often...
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