Imani Barbarin I had a wonderful conversation with disabilities activist Imani Barbarin. You can hear our conversation here or the...

Four years ago I posted about the difficulty of navigating BDSM and racism. The language we use (Master/slave) and many of our practices...

Happy Pride Month! This year Pride has been cancelled in most locations due to COVID-19 and celebrations are looking a bit different....

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...

In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...

I have never chosen a partner to make a political point. However, I live in a country where my body and my sexuality are constantly under...

I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...

When I woke to news of the mass murders in Orlando last month I was devastated. The pain was visceral. I cried for days. Dozens of my...

I write a lot about interracial dating and am open that I tend to date Black men. I want to address the personal ads and online dating...

The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...

Conceptions and understanding of race in America have long fascinated me. Race, at least for Americans, is generally a primary...