A Sexy Bucket List: How many have you done?
I am a fan of sexual and intimacy goal setting. It is a way to prioritize your pleasure and not let it languish as life happens. It also...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 3, 20224 min read
Kink-Life Balance: Is 24/7 Really for You?
In the world of BDMS, power exchange, and kinky shenanigans, people who identify as having a 24/7 dynamic are often seen as the “ideal”...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 22, 20224 min read
7 Ways to Expand Your Dynamic
BDSM and power exchange is often portrayed as something which exists as something in the bedroom. Yes, a large part of people’s dynamics...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 28, 20224 min read
The #1 Thing Dom(me)s Hate!
I work with a lot of kinky folks of all identities and levels of experience. When I talk to folks from the left side of the slash, they...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 15, 20223 min read
Should Submissives Express THEIR Needs?
When you are submissive or enjoy being submissive with a partner, navigating your own desires can be tricky. As submissives, we sometime...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 21, 20222 min read
One Question Every Submissive Needs to Answer
When I am on my knees, looking up at my Dom, waiting on his command, I am in complete bliss. There is something wonderful and liberating...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 5, 20226 min read
Head Space 101
If you have spent any time on kink blogs, podcasts, or in a class, you have heard people mention “head space.” Head space refers to the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 24, 20224 min read
How To Communicate When You Hate Long Talks
Communication is key. You have heard it hundreds, if not thousands of time when it comes to creating successful relationships and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 12, 20224 min read
Dating in an On-going Pandemic
Being single, or at least being in a position to date, during the pandemic is challenging. We all crave human touch and interaction. We...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 26, 20212 min read
Getting What You Want in 2022: Step 1
It is almost the end of 2021. I know mine has been exhausting. While the career aspect is going strong and health is slowly improving,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 1, 20213 min read
Home For the Holidays? Ways to stay kinky while visiting relatives
Nothing puts a damper of getting down and dirty as visiting the parents for the holidays! With mom, dad, the kids, grandparents, or other...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 13, 20216 min read
Can’t Find the Dom(me) of Your Dreams? This May Be Why!
Dating while kinky can be fun. It can also be immensely frustrating! Finding and connecting with a partner who matches you on desire,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 20, 20213 min read
What Can You Do If You Disagree with Your Dominant?
One of the most difficult issues of being a submissive or other s-type is having a disagreement with your dominant. Power exchange...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 12, 20214 min read
5 Common Beliefs Which Undermine Your Sex Life
You receive messages about sex and sexuality your entire live. From the media you watch, listen to, and read, to how your parents...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 18, 20214 min read
BDSM Beyond the Bedroom
If you are new-ish to kink you may be under the impression that power exchange and kink are specifically for sex and intimate play time....
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 15, 20213 min read
An Introduction to Body Affirming Kink Play
Feeling bad about your body is common. Regardless of your actual weight, height, ability, shape, gender, or age, anyone can feel bad...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 16, 20217 min read
How Do You Create an Aftercare Plan?
Aftercare is a frequently mentioned idea in kink/BDSM classes and touted as “important” for safe, sane, and consensual play. Most of the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 29, 20214 min read
7 Tips to Help You Screen For Abusers on Kink Sites
In a most predictable move, once BDSM became a topic most American’s had heard about, abusers co-opted its language to justify their...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 2, 20214 min read
Why Mantras Are Important to BDSM
You are probably familiar with mantras. They are short statements or words said repeatedly to help focus you. They are rooted in Buddhism...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 25, 20215 min read
Do This BEFORE a Partner Cheats
Listen on Spotify Finding out your partner has cheated on you is often devastating. Regardless of your relationship style (monogamous,...
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