5 Skills for Fighting Fair in Kinky Relationships
Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 17, 20186 min read
Top 10 Tips for Loving Someone Loving with Mental Illness
It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 18, 20186 min read
R.E.S.P.E.C.T. & Relationships
Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 22, 20185 min read
7 Tips for the New Switch
So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 31, 20172 min read
Talking to Fat Girls About Your Body
I am a fat girl. I have been for a long time. I don’t mince words or try and elide the fact that I am fat. I am okay with it. Most people...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 2, 20175 min read
Can’t Find “The Right One?” You Might be the Problem
Again today, as with so many days, I came upon a thread of women bitching about “no good men left.” As with so many of these threads on...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 24, 20173 min read
The Submissive Advantage
Submissives are some of the most seductive people in the world. Regardless of what we look like, if we are introverts or extroverts, or...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 9, 20176 min read
10 Things You Can Do To Increase Intimacy
I love sex! I do. And I think sex is important to most healthy romantic relationships. The old adage is sex is about ten percent of any...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 4, 20173 min read
You Want Hair Where!?!
Okay ladies, let’s talk about hair. You know, the hair down there. When I went back out on the dating scene about five years ago I...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 29, 20165 min read
What 2016 Can Teach You About Relationships
By most accounts, unless you are a rape-y cheeto with narcissistic personality disorder, this was a shit year. People are hoping 2017...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 20, 20163 min read
Ethical Monogamy
People who practice ethical non-monogamy talk a lot about what it means to be ethical in a non-monogamous relationship. But what about...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 19, 20163 min read
36 Questions You Should Ask Your Partner(s)
Immediacy is valued by many. We want what we want and we want it now! The whole concept of delayed gratification has become nearly...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 6, 20165 min read
Good Kinky Fun vs. Abuse
If I am really honest about some kink behavior, it looks like abuse out of context. I have seen more than one play scene where the bottom...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 21, 20165 min read
And What Did Protocol Give You?
I love protocols. I have found safety and security in protocol for years. It helps me get into submissive head space. It can create...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 25, 20165 min read
Insecurity Kills Relationships
Insecurity about did in my marriage. Other things killed it, but my insecurity was a big issue. I honestly thought I had conquered the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 20, 20165 min read
S-type Must be Autonomous
I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 24, 20164 min read
Relationship Red Flags
There are subtle and not so subtle signs a relationship won’t work out. The primary one I have learned to look for over the years is...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 15, 20163 min read
You Are Not as Poly or Mono As You Think
I spend a lot of time talking to people and reading social media boards by both polyamorous and monogamous folks. Universally, people are...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 3, 20165 min read
On Virtue and Vice
8? 25? 105? 300? 1,023? Is there such a thing as having too many sexual partners? Are you a sex addict? Is sex your vice? Is sex a...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 22, 20166 min read
Talk to Your Kids About Porn!
We need to talk to our kids about how to watch porn. I have had this conversation a lot since I put out my book last year. I think it is...
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