One think a lot of people new to kink and BDSM find surprising is that even with the most experienced kinky folks, we can get a bit bored...

I am a huge fan of lube as a normal part of sex. I have been using it since I discovered it in my teens. It is essential for fisting,...

Its been a hard year. A. Very. Hard. Year. Between COVID lockdowns and restrictions, the election, the United States beginning to recon...

Guest Post By Peter Minkoff As we age, many things will unavoidably change – for the better of the worse. But you know what? Even though...

I am an accidental sex/kink blogger. This site started five years ago as a book promotion site for a book I really didn’t think too many...

The first time I ordered a sex toy I was 19. It was a vibrator from Good Vibrations in San Francisco. I can remember not knowing really...

Most folks I meet assume that I have sex all the time so I must not need to masturbate. Truth be told, my partner lives a couple of hours...

It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...

I have spent nearly 30 years working in political activism. My graduate work in political psychology focused on identity, education and...

With the passing of Hugh Hefner today, lots of sex writers and educators are reflecting on his influence on their lives and work. It is...

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...

Lately I feel like I am watching one of those suspense or horror films where the protagonist makes a mistake in the beginning (e.g.,...

I write a lot about interracial dating and am open that I tend to date Black men. I want to address the personal ads and online dating...