Deepening Your Submission Resources
Howdy readers! I taught my “Deepening Your Submission” workshop last night through Wicked Grounds Annex. Participants asked that I put...
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 28, 20195 min read
Introduction to Cock and Ball Bondage
Guest Post by Jett Oxy Perhaps you have always fantasized about binding balls, but not quite sure about your ability to pull it off?...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 5, 20195 min read
Pain and Presence
There are different theories on how people “should” deal with pain. Some folks argue for being present with the pain. Some argue for...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 14, 20195 min read
Pain. The Good, The Bad, the Fun!
There is the myth that the Inuit have some amazing number of words for snow. They don’t- but we have all heard the myth. The concept is...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 18, 20193 min read
Why Collars Are Important to BDSM
Guest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 29, 20196 min read
Flip It and Reverse It: Protocols for Dominants
I adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 16, 20195 min read
Shy? Here is how to open up
Shyness is something I have had a problem with personally. However, I have had several partners who are deeply reticent to talk about...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 15, 20194 min read
Journaling (when you HATE to write)
Journaling is a common communication technique recommended in the kink community. However, most of us hate to write. I include myself in...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 2, 20195 min read
“We Need to Talk”: Ambiguity in Relationships
“We need to talk.” Its the sentence many of us live in fear of hearing from our partners. When we get a text or a message or a partner...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 8, 20194 min read
Submissives and Self Care
Being a service sub myself, much of my joy in life comes from caring for other people. I get an absurd level of joy from things like...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 6, 20186 min read
Topping From the Bottom
I can’t believe I haven’t written a blog post on topping from the bottom! How could I be so remiss of addressing a topic which comes up...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 22, 20184 min read
Identifying vs. Becoming
In the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 17, 20186 min read
Top 10 Tips for Loving Someone Loving with Mental Illness
It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 18, 20186 min read
R.E.S.P.E.C.T. & Relationships
Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 22, 20185 min read
7 Tips for the New Switch
So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 19, 20186 min read
Switching It Up
A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 8, 20173 min read
In Praise of “Just a Phase”
We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 24, 20173 min read
The Submissive Advantage
Submissives are some of the most seductive people in the world. Regardless of what we look like, if we are introverts or extroverts, or...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 4, 20173 min read
You Want Hair Where!?!
Okay ladies, let’s talk about hair. You know, the hair down there. When I went back out on the dating scene about five years ago I...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 20, 20165 min read
S-type Must be Autonomous
I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...
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