Listen on Spotify Want to stimulate the biggest sex organ for anyone? You need to get their brain aroused! While many of us rely on...

Listen on Spotify One of my favorite scenes from a movie is the therapy scene in the beginning of The Ref. Judy Davis and Kevin Spacey...

Valentine’s Day is rapidly approaching (again). Even if you are jaded toward this corporate day of forced romance and sex, you can still...

Its been a hard year. A. Very. Hard. Year. Between COVID lockdowns and restrictions, the election, the United States beginning to recon...

So, you want to try fisting. Or you heard about it. Or you tried it and it didn’t quite work. Well, let me welcome you to the wonderful...

With shelter in place orders dragging on more folks are trying sexting and sexy video chatting as an alternative to in-person hook-ups....

Pervertables – items intended for non-kinky purposes used for kink play – are some of my favorite toys! I love incorporating everyday...

One of my favorite old BritComs is Coupling (sort of the British Friends). In one of the episodes the highly sexed Patrick announces that...

We all have our limits, be they soft or hard. Not everyone likes spanking. Not everyone enjoys rope. We are all loosely bound by our...

There are different theories on how people “should” deal with pain. Some folks argue for being present with the pain. Some argue for...

The first time I ordered a sex toy I was 19. It was a vibrator from Good Vibrations in San Francisco. I can remember not knowing really...

One of the most fortuitous events in my life was discovering the kinky world at about the same time I started puberty. It provided me...

Living with anxiety is a bitch. We all experience anxiety at some point in our lives. However, lots of folks live with anxiety as part of...

We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...

Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...

I love planning scenes. Figuring out the details, setting up the situations, and preparing the tools and clothing for a scene has always...

It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...

So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...

The submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....

The U.S. kink community, like the rest of the United States, is experiencing a growing divide between the “haves” and “have-nots.” As...