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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 9, 20162 min read
Dear Republicans…
I know you are dancing and drinking and celebrating what you see is your candidate winning. I know you don’t get why most Americans (and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 8, 20162 min read
My First Times
Since America is voting today and will either get the first female president or its first/last dictator supreme, I figured I would post...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 2, 20164 min read
Are Safe Words Necessary?
One of the core principles of BDSM play is that players, all players, have a right to protect their body and mind. We stress consent,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 25, 20165 min read
Insecurity Kills Relationships
Insecurity about did in my marriage. Other things killed it, but my insecurity was a big issue. I honestly thought I had conquered the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 20, 20165 min read
S-type Must be Autonomous
I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 11, 20165 min read
Is BDSM Inescapably Racist?
I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 30, 20165 min read
Why We Should Care About Sex Tapes
This morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 26, 20167 min read
Consent: 2016 sstyle
One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 18, 20163 min read
The Necessity of Loving Your Body
I had the great honor this weekend to chair a panel at CatalystCon in Los Angeles. I presented a panel with Joie de Vivre and Diana Hong...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 14, 20163 min read
Americans Love Rape
The worst part of the aftermath of being raped was being told over and over again that I must report the rape. Every health professional...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 12, 20164 min read
On Certainty
At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 7, 20165 min read
Triggers
Talking about “triggers” and starting posts and group discussions with “trigger warnings” is now de riguer in the kink community. It has...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 3, 20164 min read
Protecting Men with a National Safe Word
By now, you have probably seen images from BDSM/kink movies or pornography. You may have tied up a date or given someone a spanking. It’s...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 28, 20163 min read
Naked, On Display, and Empowered
I get naked in public… a lot. I do burlesque and performance art with a number of groups and much of it involves taking my clothes off....
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 21, 20165 min read
Polyamory as a Sexual Orientation???
Vice.com just put out an article about people seeking to qualify polyamory as a sexual orientation. It’s not, but don’t stop reading....
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 17, 20165 min read
Do It For the Children! Media Representation
What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement, but most people- even those who agree- often...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 2, 20165 min read
D-types and Mental Illness
After teaching my class “Power Exchange and Mental Illness” several times and corresponding with folks online who have read my writing...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 19, 20163 min read
The Need to Serve
Service is quintessential to much of submission. Submissives of many ilks incorporate some form of service into their submission. We...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 11, 20164 min read
Why are you surprised???
When I woke to news of the mass murders in Orlando last month I was devastated. The pain was visceral. I cried for days. Dozens of my...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 8, 20163 min read
“Did you say ‘no?'”
When someone says they were raped, many people ask, “So, did you say ‘no?'” It is a common question in court and in police...
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