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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 6, 20164 min read
Submission and Mental Illness
My first serious girlfriend told me I was not worth the risk to marry because I had Bipolar. She knew this when we got together. Still,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 25, 20165 min read
Masculinity
I have been overwhelmed by the number of stories in the past few weeks about the horrors brought about by men who did not feel like they...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 22, 20164 min read
So, What is Sex-Positive & Why Do I Care?
Sex positive has become a new catchphrase in the professional word of sex educators and writers and body-positive movement folks. I am...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 19, 20163 min read
My Dad, My Mom and My Strength
The first time I was really made aware of the fact that I was a “girl” was in first grade. Until this point, I had remained blissfully...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 16, 20164 min read
Sex-First! Polyamory Culture
First, let me get a few things in the open (if you are not already familiar). One, I like sex. I like it a lot and believe it should be...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 12, 20162 min read
Orlando, June 2016
I am sick about the news from Orlando this morning. I am sick of living in a country that allows churches and mosques and temples to...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 10, 20167 min read
Consent, 2016 Style
Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 4, 20165 min read
Why I Stopped Caring About Gay Pride Events
Its June, which means its Gay Pride Month (or LGBT Pride, or LGBTQAAI Month, or whatever). Most cities, large and small, have some...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 24, 20164 min read
Relationship Red Flags
There are subtle and not so subtle signs a relationship won’t work out. The primary one I have learned to look for over the years is...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 16, 20165 min read
Comimg Out
I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 15, 20163 min read
You Are Not as Poly or Mono As You Think
I spend a lot of time talking to people and reading social media boards by both polyamorous and monogamous folks. Universally, people are...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 9, 20164 min read
Its a Phase
I debated a lot before I decided to post this blog entry. I have been active in the LGBTQ movement for thirty years now. I know the...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 6, 20165 min read
Measuring Up: Part Two
I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 2, 20164 min read
Consent.
I was working on my next blog post about measures around sex and research findings and planned on posting it today, then the American...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 30, 20163 min read
Sex Facts: Measuring Up
People have a ton of questions about how they match up against others in bed. Most of us are confident with one skill and question our...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 26, 20163 min read
Is This Weird???
Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 25, 20163 min read
Am I Doing this Right????
Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 21, 20162 min read
Why Submission?
I have been preparing to teach a class at subCON this weekend in NYC. The great thing about teaching any subject is that you are forced...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 5, 20161 min read
Confession
April is National Poetry Month! In Sacramento, there are a bunch of poets celebrating by doing guerrilla performances of their work. Here...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 3, 20165 min read
On Virtue and Vice
8? 25? 105? 300? 1,023? Is there such a thing as having too many sexual partners? Are you a sex addict? Is sex your vice? Is sex a...
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