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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 28, 20156 min read
Mantra
I stand on the shoulders of giants. Men and women and transfolks who came before me, fought the impossible fights, loved with great...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 24, 20154 min read
Chasing the O
Being part of the kink and BDSM community provides an alternative conception of what is a good sexual encounter.In the vanilla-ish...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 20, 20158 min read
We Need to Talk
We, as a society, need to talk a lot more about variants on sexuality and relationship styles. For a long time I have maintained that the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 18, 20154 min read
Humiliation Play
Humiliation is something that most people avoid if at all possible. Many of us have had that moment at work or with friends where...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 10, 20156 min read
Six Questions EVERYONE Should Answer About Sex (and 5 To Stop Asking Sexual and Gender Minorities)
I have had the benefit of being part of the both the queer and kink communities for a very long time now. Part of being part of sexual...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 6, 20159 min read
Discipline, Punishment and Abuse
I went to a meeting of submissives this week and an interesting discussion question was posed: What is the difference between discipline,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 3, 20158 min read
Kink Visibility
I have been asked several times in the past few months about what I think about the growing visibility of kink. With the massive...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 25, 20155 min read
Agendered
We are all born naked. Everything else is drag. ~RuPaul I want to take a concept from sexual orientation and evolve it to relate to...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 22, 20154 min read
How to NOT Interview a Kinkster:Real Answers to Lazy Vanilla Reporter Quesions
Now that I have been doing interviews with mainstream media folks about kink and non-monogamy, I am learning there are some pretty...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 19, 20155 min read
Loving Black Men
The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 16, 20159 min read
10 Things for Newbies to Think About
I was lucky when it came to discovering kink. There was almost no separation between my first kiss and my awareness of the kink...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 15, 20156 min read
Loving a Sub with Mental Illness
I live with Bipolar I. I have since I was about 11, diagnosed at 20. It is fundamental to who I am and I have never not thought about it...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 13, 20154 min read
The Flavor of “Sir”
I experience language differently than a lot of people. Words have sound and meaning, and I can see them written on a page as other do,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 10, 20156 min read
On Bondage
The more I talk to people about the kink and BDSM world, the more I realize how many people do not see this world the way I do. For some...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 5, 20155 min read
On Marriage
I will begin by saying that I am thrilled five of the members of the Supreme Court were enlightened enough to understand that gay...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 23, 20154 min read
Faking It
Let’s be honest, most of us at some point have faked an orgasm. Even the guys I know have fessed up to faking it on occasion. Yes, I know...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 12, 20153 min read
Let’s Talk About Sex (Ed) Baby
We need to talk about sex education in America. I will not do the topic justice in one post. I would encourage everybody to check out the...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 25, 20156 min read
Is Jealousy Ever Healthy in a Relationship?
The above image was posted on a poly board I am a part of and it started a short conversation. I had more to say about it than a Facebook...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 16, 20157 min read
Feminism, Bad Feminism, Choice, and Submission
I am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 29, 20157 min read
Myths About Submission
I want to talk about perceptions versus reality of submission. There are a lot of misconceptions for both vanilla folks and newbie...
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